You know how the term goes, 'Men are from Mars; women are from Venus'? Well, even though I don't believe that to be literal, the sexes definitely do behave as if we are from two different planets. The diversity in how we view things and handle situations, and the way we communicate can be troublous factors in any male/female relationship if there's not an understanding of our differences.
Sisters, I want to focus on those common blunders we make in our interactions with that significant other, which can cause a brother to fly as though he had wings! I'm going to keep it short and to the point, for I want this to be opened for discussion by both the sisters and the brothers. Okay let's go.....
1. Chasing down a guy by calling him too often. Don't be so predicatable where he could stake his life on it, that he's gonna get a call from you.
2. "Where is this relationship heading?" Oooh.....no you didn't! Please understand me here, if you both are in a "just good friends" mode, but y'all are behaving like you are in a courtship, you have every right to check in and question the direction of the communication. We are to be purpose driven, sisters! On the other hand, if you two are simply exhibiting the fruits of a platonic friendship, then asking that question isn't a wise move.
3. Treating him like he is your shrink.
4. Expressing heavy emotional sentiments at the wrong time, while he wasn't.
5. Getting all loud and aggressive.
6. DISRESPECT (IMPORTANT: Check out ASW's note: 'R.E.S.P.E.C.T Find Out What it Means to Him.'
7. Behaving clingy and insecure.
8. Talking about commitment too soon in the friendship.
9. Bringing up how it will be in the future together.
10. Disclosing all the details about your past....yea....T.M.I!
11. What I call the B.M.B (Bad Mouthing Brothers) talk. All you are telling him by engaging in such discourse, is that you have issues and baggage that he sure don't want to risk having to deal with. I mean, what if he is the next brother you end up bad mouthing?
12. Gossiping....Yep, if he sees you're not trust worthy, what makes you think he's gonna look at you and feel that in your heart he can safely trust?
If you can add anymore to the list (which I am sure you can), then please do so....
1. If he’s married, engaged or in a long-term relationship (AND IT AINT WITH YOU) you don’t want him.
ReplyDelete2. If he’s does not play an active role in the lives of his children, you don’t want him.
3. If he can’t remember special occasions, you don’t want him. Confident men can remember an anniversary.
4. If you’re good enough to have his children, you’re good enough to marry.
5. If he does not respect the mother of his child, for any other reason other than she had a child with him, you don’t want him. If he’s calling her a bitch today, you can rest assure you’ll be called one tomorrow.
6. If he’s drinking (excessively) or getting high (at all…off of anything).. Say GOODBYE!
7. If he hits you once, leave. Their is know excuse period, a confident man love his woman as he love himself..
8. If he is disrespectful with his words in front of others, don’t bother. Disputes should be handled in the privacy of your OWN environment, never in the presence of others.
9. If he is living with his grandmother / mother so that he can drive a Benz, you don’t want him. A responsible man will be RESPONSIBLE.
10. Haven’t met the parents after one year, GO.
11. Need to be in the clubs more than home? He’s not ready to settle down.
12. A liar? Say bye bye.
13. Women calling all times of the night and day? He’s not ready, STEP OFF.
14. If you find you are the giver. He does nothing to support you or help. He doesn’t offer, move on. No REAL man wants a woman to do everything on her own, although he respects the fact that it can be done, there is something in a REAL man (that provider instinct) that makes him WANT to do for you.Confident men will give the most important value him self and time... choose love wisely not materially. if you are in the right place all your material desires will be their for you already.
15. Refuses to marry after three years, he’s not ready. Bounce.
16. Doesn’t interact with your children? He must go. Just because you are a single parent, doesn’t mean you’re single. You should be considered a package deal. Any man who wants you should want your children. If he doesn’t want the responsibility…he doesn’t want you.
17. His mother in your business, by way of him? Immature, proceed with caution. They are BOTH going to be headaches.
18. Their is know luck in love, if he's confident in how to love a woman he will be a man after God's own heart , this love will be God's higher way of view of how to love a woman threw touching, sharing, communcation and holding for greater intimacy.. if he's not on this track you need to look else were .
19. Haven’t met his friends?Cant meet his children? You’re not the one. Men show off the women they adore.
20. and the Ultimate Rule to live by: If he does not wish to use protection…YOUR BLESSED ASSURANCE BETTER RUN! NO ONE should have unprotected sex unless they are trying to reproduce, or trying to pass a disease. If he refuses to go to the doctor, you don’t want him. NO EXCEPTIONS!!! NO EXCUSES.
~Thanks to 'Timothy Jones for sharing KALICO JONES Relationship Tips for Women!
Wow....powerful stuff. Ain't that the truth! I scanned this but I shall reda it some more. Thanks for posting.
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